by Tiara Kj Williams
When it comes to the image of the black woman, everyone has an opinion.
When inserting “The Black Woman” in a Google search, millions of articles, videos and pictures appeared. The perspectives are diverse, some uplift and celebrate the black woman, while other do not.
In some videos, you can learn about the accomplishments of black women in pursuit of higher education. It is a fact that black women are dominating college enrollment at every level. We are working hard and snagging upper level positions in every industry. There are countless facts about the strong black women who have literally changed the world from Oprah Winfrey to Sojourner Truth.
But obviously, when you seek you find the ratchet videos as well. The Love and Hip Hop, Atlanta Housewives types or negligent women that are teaching their children to smoke weed, and twerk. Somehow, this image overshadows the Oprah’s of the world and we are all categorized as various versions of NeNe Leaks. On these fronts the sentiment is that all black women are obnoxious and unmanageable.
In this video, a unidentified woman spends nearly eight minutes griping about her experiences with other black women. She talks about how rude, argumentative, disuniting, ghetto, and resistant the black woman can be.
She starts the video saying, “Why are black women so argumentative? We find any and everything to argue over except something constructive. In fact we don’t consider it a good time unless we have been arguing and fighting with someone over something.”
Throughout the video, it’s unclear if she’s including herself because she often shifts from “we” to “you.” She fails to say anything positive about black women. Unfortunately, this video is endorsed by the nearly twenty thousand shares and likes of people accepting these lop-sided generalizations to be true.
Yes, black women can be testy and candid, but can’t every woman? How does releasing a video like this contribute to repairing the relationship that we have with one another?
I would encourage this woman to consider the struggles of being a black woman before making useless blanket statements. It’s hard to be black, but especially hard to be a black woman. We fight many battles. There are issues of colorism, intolerance for black beauty in the media and constant rejection and degradation from our black men. Unfortunately, black men are not marrying their women at the rate of other ethnicities. Not to mention the lack there of, because millions of our men are over-crowding the penitentiaries. Finally, there are 72% of black children being raised in single parent homes.
If what you are saying is true, and all things have been considered, wouldn’t you be mad too?