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Dr. Boyce: How to go to College and NOT End Up in Prison – The Darrell Williams Rape Case

by Dr. Boyce Watkins, KultureKritic.com

I was deeply concerned about the recent rape conviction of Oklahoma State University basketball player Darrell Williams.   Williams broke down in tears in the courtroom, an understandable reaction in which he expressed outwardly what many of us would feel on the inside.  He’s going to prison, and getting a life sentence.  While his sentence is not technically going to incarcerate him for life, prison has become a life sentence when you consider the permanent psychological damage, the STDs spread from prison rape, and the lifelong marginalization from economic and political systems of America.

In that regard, going to prison for even 24 hours can  be tantamount to a life sentence.

I can’t let Williams off the hook for what happened on the night in which he allegedly committed his crime.  If he did indeed do something illegal, then prison time should be a consequence.  But one of the statements about the story that concerned me the most was one I found on ESPN:

Defense attorney Cheryl Ramsey referred to the case as a “he said, she said situation” during her closing argument. She noted that no one heard anyone scream at the party, saw any struggles or reported anything inappropriate. Neither of the women suffered any cuts or scratches, and no clothing was torn after the alleged incident.

Forgive me for saying this, but when we make a legal decision that will ruin a young man’s life, we should probably have more evidence than the statements made by an alleged victim at a party where everyone was probably drinking.  If I go to the police department and say that someone groped me, it’s hard to imagine the authorities sending that person to prison without surpassing the standard of unreasonable doubt.  In the case of Darrell Williams, doubt is beyond reasonable.

The second thought that went through my mind after hearing about the incident is one about the consistent threats to your freedom and livelihood that can occur when you head off to college.  Every single year, hundreds of women are raped on college campuses (not just groping, but actual rape), and many of these sexual assaults occur when there is alcohol somewhere in the background.  The idea that college is a place where you get drunk off your butt every weekend is antiquated and dangerous.  Simply letting the chips fall where they may at one drunken party after another is a good way to find yourself dead or in prison for a very long time.

Here are some quick tips to men who want to go to college and NOT get convicted or rape:

1) Avoid alcohol if you can or at least minimize your consumption of it: People do things when they’re drunk that they might not do otherwise.  It’s quite possible that reduced inhibitions led to Williams or some of his friends feeling that they could touch women without their permission.  People are flirting and everyone’s just hanging out, so it’s also quite possible that the women allowed themselves to be touched.  When everyone’s been drinking, almost no one has very much credibility in the court of law, because decision-making is horrifically flawed.

2) Don’t sleep with women you don’t know very well:  If a woman wants to sleep with you on the first date or after a night at the club, understand that you are putting your entire life and future in the hands of a complete stranger.  Rather than jumping for joy at the chance to have meaningless sex, you might want to jump out of bed and run for the hills.  If you don’t believe me, just ask Kobe Bryant, the married man who decided to sleep with a woman he barely knew with no condom back in 2004.  She almost sent him to prison, took all his money, ruined his family and stole everything he’d worked for over his entire life.  No sex is good enough to be worth that kind of risk, and Kobe should never have been there in the first place.

3) No means no, no exceptions:  There was a time where men and women could play the cat and mouse game – she plays hard to get and you consistently chip away at the barriers in order to get her to do the thing that you and she both know that she wants to do anyway.  Whatever man, that crap is for the birds.  In the age of political correctness, “no” always means “no.”  I don’t care if her eyes are saying “yes,” and she’s entirely naked, licking her lips with her legs spread out.  If she says “no,” then you need to say “no thanks.”  Real women don’t play stupid games that might destroy your life.

I hope that Darrell Williams can recover after this incident.  Groping is wrong, we know that.  But it’s hard to say that he deserves to go to prison with evidence this sketchy.  The key point to keep in mind, however, is that it’s not simply a matter of Williams being sent to prison for a crime he did not commit.  Rather, its a matter of us understanding how to avoid these kinds of situations in the first place.  College is not a place for drunken parties, court cases, and a pile of broken dreams.  It’s a place to get an education and create  bright future for yourself.  All that other stuff is just a pile of meaningless distractions.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of YourBlackWorld.com. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

 

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  1. This is so sad. How can you in good conscience convict someone of something with flimsy evidence like that? Smh. Poor kid.

  2. what about dna evidence? not all women fight back. it all depends on the situation. some are in a state of shock. i really need to know more before i can say one way or the other.

  3. I am very skeptical about the outcome of this case. There was lack of evidence and this young man’s life is being gambled with nonexistent proof of his alleged actions. Something inside me is saying the women made the story up or picked out the wrong black man in the line up. I feel so sorry for the young man as I believe he didn’t do the actions he was accused of. I read these type of stories all the time of a black man being falsely accused of a sexual assault he didn’t commit.

    • I’m skeptical about the outcome of most rape cases. Sadly, the pendulum on “proof” has swung waaaay to far in favor of the woman involved. In essense, all the woman has to do is say “he raped me,” and the man has to prove he didn’t, like maybe proving that while the rape was alleged to have happened in Maine, he was in Texas in the company of a priest, and police officer, and Barack Obama, all of whom will testify to that fact, and then MAYBE he can get the charges dropped (but still, his name has been sullied for life, and he will have to explain to every potential employer for the rest of his life why he was arested for rape — arrests show up on your background check, even if you are found to be totally innocent of the charges).

      With the proclivities of “date rape” accusations, where often there isn’t one ounce of cooberating eveidence as to the notion that the guy forced the girl to do something, I just don’t buy it. If there is no sign of force or being drugged, I wouldn’t vote to convict if I was on that jury.

      Just my two cents.

  4. If I were a betting person, I’d bet that the jury didn’t have any blacks on it. Getting a fair trial has everything to do with the make-up of the jury. The make-up of the jury can sometimes be more important than having a superstar attorney.

    A case tried in Oklahoma? I’d bet the farm that I’m right about the jury.

    • I hate to burst your racial bubble, but Oklahoma has a large Black population thank you.

      • As someone who lives in the town where this trial took place, I can tell you there was only 1 black person on the jury. The victims’ (both young white women) families are well-established in this town… There was no evidence presented; Darrell got railroaded. Everyone here knows the victims were drunk the night in question and have simply picked out the wrong guy. It’s tragic.

      • OK is a rampantly racist joint. Especially judicially.wake up

  5. Sorry but he placed himself in this situation, when do people learn from other peoples mistakes?

  6. Jacquie Stanton

    My heart bleeds for this young brother, his family and his alleged victim. Clearly, there are so many things that should have been addressed, Dr. Boyce’s comments notwithstanding. As a Higher Education Administrator, a sister, a mother, I am concerned that in the 21st Century “we, the collective we” are still trying to have this conversation with our children. As the comedians have said; “Darrell Williams is now a Black man in America”. He is no longer a rising star athlete. I think we should all take heed to the situation at Penn State. Colleges are going to take on more responsibility and individuals will, also. All of us need to look at how we can be more diligent with our young men. We can’t prevent all situations, but this one could have been avoided. Thank you Dr. Boyce for your template for young people, young Black people going to college. Jacquie Stanton

  7. According to my info., this young man was railroaded on some kind of revenge kick – he was a “ladies man” so to speak. More to the point, the women were willimg participants and invited several OK St. bb players to engage in risque touchy feely behavior…all this over $15. When the one girl didn’t get her money the next day…she yelled rape. She and her co-cospirator dont even know who did it?? So naturally they single out the most handsome one. Nothing happened that the girls didnt want to happen. I do believe that the character of the other men involved is being tested….dont let that brother go down….stand up and tell the truth…..scholarships be damned!

  8. Well Boyce,

    It’s hard to say what the situation is. It would be a tragedy if this guy is innocent and has been falsely accused and convicted. In this case, he will lose his self-dignity, any potential for playing professional sports, and the opportunity to have a good and successful life. Only he and those women know what is true.

    It is possible as he says, that it was a case of mistaken identity. I’ve been mistaken for other people several times, especially when I was younger. I’ve also been accused of doing things that I knew I was innocent of. The feeling of being wrongly accused is worse to me than actually knowing that I’m guilty. I hope the young brother is telling the truth, and that at some point, in the very near future, if it is the case, that he will be exonerated and compensated by the legal system. It still might leave a psychological scar that will never heal. Unfortunate!!!

  9. WHO THE HECK WAS THIS GUY’S LAWYER??!! How can someone go to jail for the rest of his adult life on evidence like this??

  10. I wish I knew that young Black men a recruited to predominately White colleges for purposes of education, or to learn to behave differently. But I do not accept that as the purpose. The ‘hood’ is full of fast running and high jumping Black youth-they are a dine a dozen. Since the 1960s the ‘hood’ has been raided.

    Those mothers who consent for their sons to go need to examine their motives. I recall a young Black man who was drafted into the NBA who on draft night-though he was underage-was drinking with his mother and his three year old daughter-in a party club. What is wrong with this picture? Black culture has become pointless.

  11. How in the hell do you convict someone of a crime, any crime, with NO witnesses and NO physical evidence! The legal system in this country is getting more and more ridiculous.

    Our sons need to know why they’re being recruited to these schools and, more importantly, how to conduct themselves out in the world. They should not leave home without some “real world” training.

  12. I hear stories of being innocent of a crime and going to jail, my problem with that is no only be aware of your surroundings but be very careful of where you go. most times we are just in the wrong place..

  13. Teach your sons to leave white slutty hoes alone!

  14. Leave them white women alone!

  15. P/O’d!
    Emmitt Teal! RIP!

  16. The story wreaks of two white females who were being rebellious and got caught and when they did get caught, they yelled rape. I truly believe he is innocent….

  17. When will black guys learn…..leave these WHITE girls the hell alone …this is a sad situation and im willing to bet that this was not a rape.

  18. This is so sad.This young did not get a fair trial.I can’t believe his lawyer had mostly white jurors.This is another wasted life.He had promise.i hope he can get a repeal.My heart is so heavy and sad.
    i am so tried of our young men being put in jail.It seems that people are just getting so mean and doing hateful things that ruin people’s lives.Look at our politics today.

  19. This case reminds me of the racism that makes this Country turn. That young man at college is being sent to jail because two white trash girls screamed rape, plain and simple.

  20. When oh When will these Black Men learn to Leave These Poor-Poor White Trailer Trashes ALONE!! REMEMBER OJ??

  21. Amen to that Ana .

  22. It really sucks being him.

  23. Malcolm X said it best: American is always confusing the “victim” with the “Criminal” This young man is the “victim” of a racist judgement.He was “railroaded” This verdict a mis-carriage of justice.Didn’t Richard Pryor say”jus-tice is “Just-Us( in Jails)”.This must be overturned!

  24. Please leave these white women alone… it aint safe! Dang look what happened to OJ..He lost it all..his mind and soul..over a po white trash!

  25. read your history books brothers…starting with OJ..

  26. It really disgusts me how some feel a need to trash women, regardless of color to attempt to express your feelings that you believe the young man is innocent. You do nothing more than reinforce the negative stereotype of the angry black woman, who is envious of the white woman who you believe is stealing black men from you. It seems they’re going willingly, but that’s another st ory.

    Now I am angry based on what is reported here, because I know how unjust the so-called criminal justice system is. I can personally point to two cases, two that I am involved in, and one that I have personal knowledge of that mirrors this young man’s case and he was innocent. I agree with Dr. Watkins in pointing out to these young men what to watch out for, just as I pointed out to my daughter when she went away to college 13 years ago, please don’t join the drinking crowd and leave the jocks alone.

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