When it was reported that the online petition against Evelyn Lozada was gaining steam, all I could say was “yes lawud.” I love the idea of a real woman standing up to the bully and reclaiming the image of Black women across the globe.
Alexis M. has begun contacting major corporations to ask that they spend their advertising dollars elsewhere. She is also getting support from those of us who are tired of seeing women of color portrayed as feminine gang bangers, getting in each other’s faces and slapping one another to the ground. It’s nearly impossible to teach young people to avoid violence when it seems that these 30-somethings always turn to violence as the first resort.
Watch Evelyn’s fight with fellow cast member Royce Reed during Season 3 here:[ione_embed src=http://media.mtvnservices.com/mgid:uma:videolist:vh1.com:1665664/cp~instance%3Dfullepisode%26autoPlay%3Dfalse%26id%3D1665664%26instance%3Dfullepisode%26uri%3Dmgid%3Auma%3Avideolist%3Avh1.com%3A1665664 service=mtv width=512 height=288]
When I see the image of Evelyn’s snarling face, I can’t help but visualize her as the angry kid in kindergarten, throwing violent temper tantrums when she didn’t get her way. I then see her as the “Queen Bee” in middle school, as she points out the overweight girl with zits and murders the child’s self-esteem every morning in front of the class. Finally, I see Evelyn as the prom queen, living under the false assumption that her looks are a “get-out-of-jail-free” card that allows her to hurt other people and get away with it.
Well, sorry, Evelyn, the jig is up. You aren’t going to bully us anymore, and there is someone willing to stand up to women like you.
I am proud of Alexis M. for attempting the impossible and finally being the person who holds Evelyn accountable. Alexis represents all the little girls who become suicidal after relentless bullying by the Evelyn Lozada wannabes being created each night by VH1. She represents the overweight, depressed 12-year-old who loses friends because the Queen Bee makes others not want to be associated with her.
Evelyn’s activities on this show are not only disgraceful, but they play a direct role in creating hatred in places where we could have just as easily created compassion. Standing up to the bully in public doesn’t just make us feel better, it serves to protect all the children across the country who are being terrorized by bullies themselves. It is for these reasons that I say, Run, Alexis, run,” we’re all rooting for you.
Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse University and author of the forthcoming book, “The RAPP Sheet: Rising Above Psychological Poison.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.